Many people who are successful and accomplished, end up being master REACTORS vs master CREATORS.
What do I mean by that?
Life is constantly throwing things at us to handle and act on, especially if you are an effective, successful person. Sometimes you end up developing the muscle of REACTING really well in certain circumstances. You are able to get stuff done, to be effective in dealing with "stuff". This is obviously not a bad thing, however it is NOT the same as being a MASTER CREATOR and sometimes gets confused as the same muscle.
Being able to CREATE your life on a moment to moment basis has a lot to do with the space FROM which you are living vs what you are actually DOING or even accomplishing
Are you coming from the space of REACTING to:
- your spouse/partner,
- your employees,
- your boss,
- your neighbor,
- your thoughts or feelings,
- maybe even other people's opinions?
Or, are you actually CREATING the space that you are functioning FROM as an intentional creation that you have THE say over.
While circumstances sometimes may just "happen", the space from which you deal with the circumstances can be CREATED by YOU.
Furthermore, it is like any muscle, you need to start by practicing using that muscle.
THE NEXT TIME YOU EXPERIENCE YOURSELF REACTING TO SOMETHING OR SOMEONE:
1. Ask yourself, what space am I CREATING from which to respond to this situation or person?
(i.e. If you create the space of patience or compassion or impact, ask yourself, 'What would patience, compassion or impact say or do right now?" )
2. Say that or do that.
In the coming week I invite you to simply notice when you are REACTING to life vs CREATING life and begin acting and speaking from a CREATED space, created in your word.
Let me know what you see!