People often think when I say "you need nothing" that I mean "you don't need anything"...That is NOT what I mean.
When I say you need nothing, I am pointing to that you need a blank canvas to create. You need a space with nothing in it to actually create.
The question becomes "how do I create nothing?".
Let's dive into the 4-step process I outlined:
Step 1: Pick an area or a relationship that you want to create something new in. Reflect on the person or area Begin by jotting down everything you know about the area or person you're focusing on. Embrace the good, the bad, and the challenges. This could pertain to personal growth, relationships, or any facet of your life.
Step 2: Uncover Limiting Beliefs List all the reasons you believe you don't have what you want in that specific area/relationship. These might be lingering doubts, self-imposed limitations, or past experiences that are holding you back. Take a moment to distinguish these beliefs.
Step 3: Have a talk with yourself in the Mirror Read your list aloud in front of a mirror, repeating it three times. This step invites self-reflection, encouraging you to name the limiting beliefs or thoughts that may be hindering your progress.
Step 4: Release and Create Now, take the paper, tear it up, and let it go. YES TEAR IT UP! This symbolic act represents shedding old beliefs and making room for fresh possibilities. Look at the situation or person anew and ask, "What do I want to create?" Identify the actions needed to bring your vision to life and schedule them in your calendar.
I'll share a personal example to illustrate. I had reservations about yoga, citing reasons like not being a morning person or feeling too fast-paced for it or YOGA is dangerous, in fact I slipped a disc doing YOGA years ago. However, by committing to yoga classes, incorporating walks and circuit training, I've transformed my perspective. Now, these actions are in my calendar, and I'm on track to realizing my vision of being long lean and sexy!.
I found this process to be liberating, and I thought you might resonate with it too. Remember, our limitations often exist in our minds, and by releasing old beliefs, we create space for positive change.
Happy Valentine's Week! In the spirit of LOVE and ROMANCE I wanted to share this take on being unmessablewith in relationship.
Looking for love? Is your filter robbing you of finding it?
When my clients tell me they are looking for "the one," I often ask them what that means, and inevitably, they have a list of qualities that "the one" has. That list serves as a filter through which they measure anyone they date or even consider dating. That filter messes with them (and might be messing with you).
When I met my husband, it was a blind date that my sister set up. She called me and said, "I have a guy for you." I replied, "Not interested, I am taking a break." She insisted, "No, I have the PERFECT guy for you." I reluctantly agreed, saying, "One cup of coffee, I will have one cup of coffee with him." Needless to say, almost 30 years later, with 3 kids and 10,000,000 cups of coffee shared, she was right. My point in sharing this is that he did not fit my filter. He was too young, too skinny, etc. If I had been looking at him through that filter, we wouldn't have had the past 30 years to build our life together.
Before our first date, I decided to be on the date with the attitude of curiosity and discovery. Well, that was my last first date, and I discovered that maybe my list (or filter) may not be the most useful lens.
If you are looking for your ONE, I invite you to make a list of what is making up your filter. Write it all down (height, build, job, personality, hobbies, education, family, money, etc). Now take the paper... and rip it up! Free yourself from your filter!
The next step is to pre-create a space, a new filter, made up of possibility or vision, not characteristics. Something like wonder, compassion, discovery, fun, etc. Use that as your filter and view them through that new filter, which creates space vs narrows down who can fit in your heart.
This is a first step to dismantling what messes with you in your search for THE ONE. The biggest access to love is creating love and sharing it, vs looking to get it from someone or something. See if you can practice loving people this week. Find the LOVELY parts of people and speak to that part of them instead of measuring them against your list.
Lists and love may not be the best formula.
So, I invite you to let go of the list and create the love that you will bring to your life.
Do you have money, or does money have you?
One of the significant areas that can mess with people is MONEY. I've worked with individuals facing massive debt with only $30.00 in their bank accounts, as well as those with tens of millions of dollars. Honestly, I can attest that the root cause of their challenges is not solely related to the dollar amount; it's about their relationship with money, plain and simple.
've discovered the following steps to be highly effective when seeking to transform your relationship from money having control over you to you having control over your money.
1. Clarify Your Actual Financial Situation: Get clear about how much money you genuinely have. Examine every bank account, 401k, and other financial assets to determine the accurate dollar amount.
2. Calculate Your Income: Gain clarity on how much money you earn. Review the last six months, and if your income comes from multiple sources, calculate an average. This includes interest from bank accounts, dividends from stock ownership, salary, etc.
3. Understand Your Expenditure: Develop a clear understanding of your spending habits. This may involve conducting a six-month audit of your credit card bills, cash withdrawals, etc. Alternatively, you can maintain a money tracking audit sheet (see attached below) to identify where and when you are spending your money.
4. Define Your Financial Goals: Once you are grounded in the reality of the numbers, clarify what you genuinely want. Whether it's doubling your income, reducing spending by 20%, or alleviating worries about money, be specific about your financial goals.
5. Identify Five Actionable Steps: Ask yourself, "What are five actions I can take to achieve what I desire?" List these concrete steps that align with your financial goals.
6. Take Daily Action: Execute the actions you've identified. Consistency is key, so make a commitment to repeat this process daily.
7. Revisit and Refine: Repeat steps 4-6 daily. Regularly revisit and refine your financial goals and action steps to ensure ongoing progress.
By following these steps, you'll shift from a position where money has you to one where you have the say over your relationship to money.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.