Today, I want to delve into a profound topic that has been on my mind: the impact of concealing aspects of ourselves and the true freedom that comes with not HAVING to hide anything
Unveiling the Hidden: The Power of Authenticity We all carry hidden layers, whether due to societal expectations, fear of judgment, or personal insecurities. But have you considered the toll this may be taking on your ability to live authentically?
The Energy of Concealment: Concealing parts of ourselves consumes energy, diverting focus from living authentically. The constant effort to maintain a facade can lead to stress, anxiety, and a sense of disconnection from our true selves. It really doesn't matter "what" you are hiding, it's the act of hiding that robs us of our freedom. (whether it's hiding that you bite your nails to hiding that you had an infidelity)
Breaking Free: Embracing Authenticity The journey toward authenticity begins with acknowledging and embracing every part of ourselves. Reflect on what you hide and why – this introspection is the first step toward dismantling the barriers that keep us from being genuine.
Liberation Through Vulnerability Sharing our authentic selves requires vulnerability, which is a strength, not a weakness. It fosters genuine connections, self-acceptance, and a life lived with purpose. Try revealing what you are hiding to 3 people and see what happens to the prison of hiding.
Freedom Without Overwhelm Being free to be yourself doesn't mean divulging everything indiscriminately. It's about the freedom to be and act without the burden of hiding. Authenticity allows for discernment, ensuring that we share appropriately and cultivate meaningful connections.
Your Invitation to True Freedom Consider this newsletter an invitation to explore the hidden corners of your life and start the journey toward greater authenticity. What are you concealing, and how might releasing it free up energy for a more fulfilling, genuine existence?
A Balanced Challenge Identify one thing you've been concealing and ask: What would it feel like to release it, to be free from the weight of concealment? Challenge yourself to take one step toward unveiling your authentic self, remembering that authenticity includes a thoughtful approach to sharing.
True freedom lies in embracing every facet of who you are. Let's embark on this journey together and celebrate the liberation that authenticity brings.
Do you ever feel like you’re running out of time?
Do you find it challenging to accomplish everything on your to-do list, leaving you wishing for more hours in the day?
I’ve been there, and I want to share a perspective that has helped me shift from overwhelm to ease—it’s not about the amount of time you have but rather your relationship to time.
HOW TO SHIFT FROM OVERWHELM TO EASE
1. Make a Comprehensive List:
Start by making a list of everything you need or want to accomplish. Whether it’s work tasks, personal goals, or self-care activities, jot them down. This step is about bringing clarity to the multitude of incomplete tasks that may be causing you stress.
Action Step 1: Grab a notepad or open a note-taking app and list out all your tasks.
2. Assign Deadlines:
Next to each item on your list, assign a “by when” date for when you want it to be completed. This step adds a layer of structure to your tasks, helping you prioritize and manage your time effectively.
Action Step 2: Take a moment to allocate deadlines to each task on your list.
3. Schedule Tasks in Your Calendar:
Take your list and transfer the tasks to your calendar. As you schedule each action, cross it off the list. This transforms your to-do list into a tangible, time-bound plan that lives in reality, not your head.
Action Step 3: Open your calendar and schedule each task at specific times and days. Cross them off your list as you go.
4. Resolve Overlaps:
If you notice any overlaps in your calendar, take the time to reschedule conflicting tasks. Reality doesn’t tolerate two things in the same place at the same time, and your calendar shouldn’t either.
Action Step 4: Ensure there are no overlaps in your calendar by adjusting and rescheduling conflicting tasks.
5. Reflect on Your Accomplishments:
Look at your crossed-off list and reflect on the experience of transforming your “someday” tasks into real, scheduled events. What are you present to right now?
Action Step 5: Take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate the shift from overwhelm to clarity.
6. Execute Your Schedule:
The magic happens when you follow through. Simply do what you scheduled when you scheduled it. The real transformation occurs when you turn your WORD into actions.
Action Step 6: Embrace the magic of “Abracadabra” by executing your scheduled tasks as planned.
By implementing these steps, I’ve found myself transitioning from a state of overwhelm to a space of ease.
My calendar has become a tool for empowerment rather than a source of stress.
Here’s to a newfound relationship with time and the ease that comes with it!
Abracadabra, you create with your word!
One of things I love to do is have conversations about being Unmessablewith™. Some of those conversations are during podcast interviews. Here are some of my favorite podcast interviews of 2023. Enjoy the tips and strategies to develop yourself in being able to CREATE vs REACT in life and be Unmessablewith™!
The Terri Cole Show
A Productive Conversation with Mike Vardy
Sleep Is A Skill with Mollie Eastman
Let’s dive into a topic that is often shrouded in mystery, embarrassment and misconceptions: SEX. Contrary to popular belief, sex and intimacy are not automatically intertwined. In fact, I suggest that the key to great sex lies in open and honest communication. So, let’s explore how you can enhance your connection with your partner and take your intimacy to new heights!
Action Step 1: Set aside dedicated time to communicate openly with your partner. Create a safe space for sharing thoughts and feelings without judgment.
2. Intimacy Requires Honesty: Intimacy is not solely reserved for the bedroom. It’s a multifaceted aspect of a relationship that is deeply rooted in honesty. Think about those moments of intimacy you’ve experienced with people you’re not romantically involved with. Chances are, those connections were built on a foundation of truth and openness. Apply the same principles to your romantic relationship by being completely honest with your partner.
Action Step 2: Reflect on your level of honesty in your relationship. Are there things you’re holding back? Take the initiative to share fully and authentically.
3. Open Communication for Better Sex and Intimacy: If you desire both great sex and deep intimacy, open and honest communication is the key. Ask yourself the tough questions: What are you not saying? What are you hiding? What are you trying to ignore? Challenge yourself to bring these topics into the open, creating a pathway for a more profound connection with your partner.
Action Step 3: Initiate a conversation with your partner where both of you can openly share your thoughts, dreams, and concerns. Use this dialogue as a bridge to the best sex and intimacy you’ve ever experienced together.
Remember, the more you communicate openly, the stronger the foundation you build for a fulfilling and satisfying relationship. So, are you ready to take your connection to the next level?
As we embark on a new year, it’s time to reflect on the age-old tradition of New Year’s resolutions. We’ve all been there, setting ambitious goals only to find them slipping away shortly after the clock strikes midnight. It’s the classic case of New Year’s MEZZO-LUTIONS – resolutions that lack the sticking power we desire.
So, how do we transition from fleeting resolutions to STICK-O-LUTIONS, promises that truly stick? Join me on a journey to explore the secrets of making commitments that endure.
Treat Your Word Like Everything Matters
When we make promises, they should carry weight. If you commit to meeting someone at 7 p.m., honor that commitment. If you pledge to spend 20 minutes on the treadmill, don’t settle for 19. Treating your word with the gravity it deserves eliminates the temptation to selectively uphold promises.
Connect Your Promise to a Bigger Game
Consider the impact of your promises on what truly matters to you. If peace is a priority, link your commitment to actions that contribute to your vision of peace. For instance, maintaining a fitness routine can lead to better sleep, cultivating peace of mind. Connecting promises to meaningful objectives strengthens their significance.
In a personal example, my husband refrained from eating Chinese food for an entire year. Why? He connected it to his financial goals. Each Chinese meal led to an additional dinner expense, impacting our budget. This small sacrifice resulted in an eggroll-less, but financially empowered, 2013.
Make Keeping Promises Synonymous with Building Power
No promises, no power. Recognize that keeping your word is not just about commitments; it’s about building personal power. If empowerment is a priority for you, embracing and fulfilling promises becomes a pathway to increased strength and influence.
In a world where many things are beyond our control, your word remains a force you can wield. It’s the key to becoming UNMESSABLEWITH – where your word is sacred and unbreakable.
Remember, you might not have control over your feelings, thoughts, or mood, but your word is entirely within your command. Embrace the power of promises, and watch as it brings incredible strength into your life.
If you’re intrigued by the idea of unleashing the potential of your promises, consider diving deeper into this transformative concept. For those hungry for more, I’ve authored two books on the subject – “Peace Promises” and “The Promise Effect.”
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.