We all know that taking action is essential because without it, we can't expect to see results, right?
However, it's important to reflect on the source of our actions. Have you ever found yourself caught in a cycle of taking action after action, feeling like you're spinning your wheels without making real progress? I can certainly relate, and I'm sure you can too.
I recently had the privilege of working with a coaching client who was suffering from job burnout. He was a representative at a juice company, essentially selling juice. But he had reached a point where he dreaded going to work, started cutting corners, and felt overwhelmed by the whole situation. He was trapped in a world of negativity and wondered why he even chose to be in such an environment.
Together, we embarked on a journey to dismantle the challenges he faced at work. We delved into his true motivations and explored his dreamsource (there is a link to my TED TALK where I distinguish DREAMSOURCE down below)—the deeper reason behind his choices. We discovered that his ultimate commitment was to people's wellbeing. He wanted to leave a positive impact on others and provide them with access to improved health and wellness.
By re-discovering his dreamsource, it completely shifted the context he was functioning in at work.
This shift in context was transformative for him. Instead of viewing his job as a mere paycheck, he began seeing it as an opportunity to contribute to people's wellbeing. The same job, but with a new lens and purpose. This shift in context breathed new life into his work. His entire experience transformed, and he became three times more effective and productive in his sales.
The context is decisive, as the saying goes. By altering the context, we can bring new life and meaning to any situation. A shift in the context changes our perception and experience. Context is a linguistic phenomenon that allows us to shape our reality.
You have the power to alter the context of any situation in your life. By shifting your perspective, you can uncover new possibilities and unlock hidden potential. It's not about changing the external circumstances, but rather transforming the way you perceive and approach them.
As you navigate your own journey to be "unmessablewith", I encourage you to reflect on the context in which you're operating. Are there areas where you feel stuck or drained? Take a moment to connect with your dreamsource—the deeper purpose that fuels your actions. Aligning your actions with your true intentions can bring a profound sense of fulfillment and drive.
Remember, action is crucial, but the source of your action is equally important. When you approach life with a new context, one that aligns with your true desires and aspirations, you'll experience a renewed sense of purpose and joy.
Stay tuned for future newsletters where we'll continue exploring empowering strategies, insights, and success stories in being "unmessablewith". If you have any questions or need support along the way, feel free to reach out. Together, let's continue creating lives that are truly "unmessablewith."
Let's delve into the profound impact of community and how it enhances our pursuit of BEING UNMESSABLEWITH. In a world that often glorifies solitude as a symbol of strength, I am always reminded that true empowerment lies in building connections with like-minded individuals who inspire, support, and challenge us. By nurturing these relationships, we create a network of trusted allies who not only understand our journey but are also ready to provide guidance, lend a helping hand, or simply be there to listen when we need it the most.
[Building Strong Connections]
At times, it may be tempting to believe that BEING UNMESSABLEWITH means standing alone, forging ahead without assistance or reliance on others. However, the truth is that our strength and Unmessablewithness is amplified when we surround ourselves with a community that shares our values and aspirations. Together, we can achieve so much more than what would be possible in isolation.
Within a community, we find a safe space to express our thoughts, dreams, and fears. We discover people who have faced similar challenges and can offer valuable insights. These connections allow us to broaden our perspective, gain new knowledge, and tap into the collective wisdom of those who have walked a similar path.
[Inspiration and Support]
One of the greatest gifts of a community is the inspiration it provides. By interacting with individuals who are pursuing their own goals and dreams, we fuel our motivation to push beyond our limits and strive for greatness. We witness the accomplishments of others and realize that if they can do it, so can we.
Moreover, a community serves as an unwavering support system during both the highs and lows of our journey. When we encounter obstacles or face setbacks, or "Messablewith Moments", these allies offer encouragement, empathy, and practical advice. Their presence reminds us that we are not alone in our struggles, and that we can lean on them for support when needed.
[The Freedom to Explore]
Ironically, it is within the embrace of a supportive community that we find the true freedom to explore our unmessablewithness. Knowing that we have a safety net of individuals who genuinely have our back, grants us the confidence to take risks and venture into new territories. We can experiment, grow, and learn from our experiences, secure in the knowledge that our community will be there to catch us if we stumble.
By fostering an environment of trust, respect, and collaboration, we create a space where independence can flourish. It is through the collective efforts of a community that we unlock our full potential and achieve the extraordinary.
[Wrapping it up]
As we reflect on the power of community, let us remember that BEING UNMESSABLEWITH does not mean forsaking connections but rather cultivating meaningful relationships. By surrounding ourselves with individuals who inspire, support, and challenge us, we build a network of trusted allies who are essential to our growth and success. Embrace the strength that comes from nurturing these connections and continue to forge ahead, together as an UNMESSABLEWITH COMMUNITY!
Wishing you an unmessablewith and interconnected journey ahead!
What My Grandmother Taught Me About Creating a Life I Love
I used to be scared of my grandmother. When I was little, I thought she was mean, and I was frightened of her. I had an ideal of being a good granddaughter, so I would call her on the phone every couple of months and ask how she was doing, and she would say, "How would you know? You never call." Through the lens of "she's mean," "you never call" sounded like more of the same. I thought she IS mean.
One day, I realized that "she is mean" is just one possible lens I could use to view my grandmother. It occurred to me that the issue might be the lens itself, not the person I am viewing through that lens.
Here's what I did to change my perspective:
💥 I separated reality from the lens: The reality was that my grandma said, "You never call me." My lens had the color of her being mean and scary.
💥 I got clear on what I was committed to: I was committed to creating a loving relationship with my grandmother.
💥 I took some time to create a few possible alternate lenses:
Door #1: Everything my grandmother says means she loves me.
Door #2: My grandmother has had a tough life.
Door #3: My grandmother is very direct.
Here's what happened next: I put on my new "created" lens and I called my grandmother. I said, "How are you?" and as she did in the past, she said, "How would you know? You never call me?" Here's the magic part: through the lens of "my grandmother loves me," "you never call me" sounded VERY different. I then said, "You are right, I haven't called you in a while. How are you?" Suddenly, everything from the past disappeared, and she said, "I'm fine. How are you?" Abracadabra, a new relationship was born.
💥I then scheduled time in my calendar every week to call my grandmother, and we spoke every week, sometimes 3-5 times a week. When she passed away 15 years later, she was my best friend.
When I did these four things:
💥 Separated reality from the lens
💥 Got clear on what I was committed to
💥 Created a few possible alternate lenses
💥 Scheduled time in my calendar to take actions to fulfill what I was creating
I was able to let go of my default lens for my grandma and create a delicious, loving relationship with her.
These four things can be applied to any area of your life. My grandmother went from scary to precious in one conversation. It was pure magic.
I recently did an interview with Mary Ann Faremouth on CAREER CAN DO about How To Thrive In Any Circumstance. If you wanna THRIVE vs SURVIVE, take a listen. (Perhaps while you are on the treadmill today.)
Here is some of what we discussed:
In this episode of Career Can Do, guest Josselyne Herman-Saccio explores what it takes to empower dreams and defeat obstacles. Josselyne is a master coach and highly experienced course leader who has dedicated her career to empowering individuals to realize and pursue their dreams. Over the course of her career, she has worked with more than 200,000 people, helping them to create opportunities, overcome obstacles, and strive for success in both personal and professional contexts. Josselyne joins Mary Ann Faremouth to share her transformative approach to achieving personal and professional success. She stresses the importance of self-awareness, particularly about recognizing and challenging limiting beliefs, and maintaining a clear understanding of personal passion and purpose.
Burnout and work-life balance are pressing issues in today’s work environment. With the rise of digital communication tools like Zoom, employees can connect from across the globe, but this also brings new challenges. To effectively manage your life and responsibilities, Josselyne advocates using a calendar as a powerful organizing tool. By recording every task and commitment, you can create tangible context for your actions, helping to distinguish between imposed or "default" dreams and your own created dreams.
Josselyne introduces the concept of being “unmessablewith,” which she describes as a state of being that allows you to create in any circumstance without being hindered. This powerful mindset is an antidote to the effects of limiting beliefs, notions of truth, and scarcity, which can interfere with your ability to achieve your dreams.
She presents an alternative view of failure, encouraging individuals to perceive it not as an endpoint but as a part of the journey towards fulfillment and success. In Josselyne’s philosophy, failure is not something to be avoided or feared. Instead, it serves as a crucial learning opportunity, providing insights and lessons that can be invaluable for personal growth and progress. Recognizing that setbacks are a natural part of life's journey can empower you to navigate your path with resilience, tenacity, and focus on your ultimate goals.
Today, we want to delve into a thought-provoking topic: the concept of independence and whether it is truly a prize or can sometimes become a prison. While independence is often seen as an admirable trait, it's essential to explore the potential drawbacks and how seeking support and collaboration can help us navigate this delicate balance.
Independence has long been hailed as a prized quality. We celebrate those who can handle everything on their own, viewing their self-sufficiency as a mark of success. However, it's worth considering whether the pursuit of absolute independence can unintentionally restrict our growth and well-being, leading to isolation and self-imposed limitations.
In reality, there is a spectrum between independence as a prize and independence as a prison. Here are a few perspectives to help us navigate this complex concept:
By embracing the idea that interdependence is a source of strength, we can navigate the delicate balance between self-reliance and seeking support.
Wishing you an unmessablewith week of collaboration and partnership!
Practice letting people support you and asking for support. You do not need to go it alone, people love to support others. Don't you?
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.