Lately, I've been diving deep with my clients to uncover what truly stops them from taking action towards their dreams.
It all starts with a clear vision. When we know what we want in life, we have our North Star guiding us towards our goals. But here's the thing - it's not always the lack of vision that holds us back. It's often the stories we tell ourselves about why we can't achieve what we desire. This tends to cloud our vision and keep us trapped.
Just like the fascinating story of how fleas are trained, we, too, can become trapped by invisible lids that keep us stuck in the past. Those past experiences, beliefs, and self-doubts create limitations that we carry with us, often unknowingly. We jump against the lid, but we're held back by our own perceptions.
The journey to transformation involves uncovering these limiting beliefs, then questioning and challenging their validity. Is it really true that you're not good enough? Is it true that you can't pursue your passion as a career? Are those stories from the past still relevant today?
ANY TRUTH IS AN IMAGINARY LID.
The moment we start to question these stories, we open up a world of possibilities. We begin to see that the lid isn't really there - it's just a product of our own perceptions. And when we realize this, a sense of empowerment takes over.
I've witnessed this transformation in countless individuals including myself.
Below is a video clip exploring the above with Mike Vardy and I on his podcast A PRODUCTIVE CONVERSATION.
So, my dear friends, let's explore together. Let's identify the stories that are holding us back and challenge their validity. Let's embrace the power of vision and step into a world where our dreams are within reach. Together, we can become fearless and unmessablewith, just like the powerful fleas that initially jump without hesitation.
Thanksgiving can be about the turkey, stuffing, and sweet potatoes or it can be about the opportunity to thank and appreciate the people who mean the most to you.
But by merely surviving the holidays, we often miss the point of the season.
Instead of powering through your to-do list this Thanksgiving, why not be the source of appreciation and thanks and create a true THANKSGIVING?
Here are a few ideas to get you on the path to being thankful this holiday:
Be the source of giving thanks wherever you go. If you do this, it will enable you to build a muscle of appreciation that will expand beyond the holiday and have your life filled with gratitude for the big and the little things that make up your everyday life.
In our journey through life, we often face a paradox: to expand, we must first learn to release. This concept may seem counterintuitive, but let me share why it's essential, whether in business, personal growth, relationships or even yoga.
The Yoga Analogy Yoga teaches us a valuable lesson. When holding a challenging pose, it might seem logical to hold our breath tightly, believing it will help us maintain the posture. However, the opposite is true. To extend into the pose and find balance, we must release our breath. In doing so, we create space for expansion. (look at me the yogi...something I never would have thought was possible)
Applying It to Life Much like in yoga, the same principle applies to life, especially when it comes to entrepreneurship, personal development, and relationships. Many individuals I work with, including but not limited to, entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, and executives, often struggle with trying to "do it all" instead of having it all.
The Need to Let Go To expand and elevate any area of our lives, we must let go. Holding tightly onto tasks, projects, or responsibilities limits the space for growth. It could be the belief that you're the only one who can do something correctly or withholding a crucial communication.
Identifying Your Constraints Take a moment to reflect on the areas in your life where you're striving for growth and expansion. Are you experiencing slow progress or stagnation? Ask yourself: What am I holding on to? What do I need to release, delegate, communicate, or share to create space for expansion?
Breaking the Barrier What you're holding on to acts as a lid on what's possible. By releasing it, you unlock new opportunities, ideas, and growth. It might be challenging at first, as letting go often requires vulnerability and trust, but the rewards are worth it.
Share Your Insights I'd love to hear what you discover in your self-reflection. What are you ready to release to create room for expansion in your life, business, or relationships? Feel free to share your insights with me; I'm here to support your journey.
Remember, expansion often begins with letting go. Embrace the paradox, release to expand, and watch as new possibilities and opportunities unfold.
In my work with coaching clients, I've noticed a common challenge that messes with many of us face in our day-to-day lives: distraction. It's a scenario we're all too familiar with—you set out to accomplish a task, and then an email pings in, your social media feed beckons, or a phone call interrupts your focus. Like a cat with a pen light, you find yourself easily distracted, veering off course to respond and react to whatever is coming at you.
The ability to maintain focus on the actions you intend to accomplish during a specific time is a crucial skill for anyone looking to elevate their performance in any area of life. Think of it as a muscle that needs to be developed because reacting to life's constant stimuli is the default mode for many of us. However, it's the move from reaction to creation that truly empowers us to become authors of our actions rather than simply reacting to external forces.
So, how do we transition from distraction to action? It starts with being crystal clear about your vision or purpose for any activity you engage in. Whether it's writing a series of emails, working on a project, or any task at hand, having a clear vision of what you aim to achieve is paramount.
For instance, if your task is to write a series of emails, don't just see it as a mundane chore. Instead, envision the result you want to produce through those emails. It could be leaving people with more freedom and power in their lives, or maybe it's about solidifying an outcome for a project at work. Keep that vision at the forefront of your mind.
Now, here's where the magic happens. Your actions should be aligned with this vision. During your dedicated work time, resist the urge to check emails, texts, or social media. Ignore the incoming calls. Instead, stay laser-focused on the actions that will bring your vision to life. It may not always be easy, but it's a skill that you can develop over time.
I recommend starting with short periods of uninterrupted time to build your focus muscle. Begin with 15 minutes, during which you are entirely dedicated to the task at hand. For some, this might be a challenge initially, while for others, it may come more naturally. Gradually extend these periods to 20, 30, or even 45 minutes until you can comfortably maintain an hour of uninterrupted focus on your chosen task.
Now, you might be wondering about emergencies. What if someone needs to reach you urgently? In such cases, consider setting up specific alert sounds for key contacts, like a babysitter watching your kids. This way, you can be confident that you won't miss critical information. Remember, most situations can tolerate a 15-minute delay in your response.
Let's also remember that there was a time when cell phones and emails weren't constantly attached to us. We survived just fine without them. So, I encourage you to practice moving from distraction to action, one 15-minute chunk at a time, and build the muscle of producing results that you've authored rather than reacting to life's distractions.
Step 1: Define Your Vision
Step 2: Create Dedicated Work Time
Step 3: Avoid External Distractions
Step 4: Align Actions with Vision
Step 5: Gradually Extend Focus Periods
Step 6: Set Alerts for Critical Contacts
Step 7: Embrace the No-Distraction Zone