Happy Valentine's Day !
For some people this is a day of celebration, of love, of chocolate, of flowers.
For others it is one of the most annoying days of the year.
Whichever camp you are in, or anywhere in between, I want to offer you a way to create an UNMESSABLEITH VALENTINES DAY.
Step 1: Notice all your should's and shouldn'ts about Valentines Day - i.e. they should plan a nice dinner, they shouldn't expect an expensive dinner, we should have great sex tonight, I should have a date tonight, I shouldn't be alone, they should've brought me Godiva chocolates instead of the Walgreens chocolates or worse NO chocolate...etc.... GET IT ALL ON PAPER, actually make a list.
Step 2: Rip up the paper and throw it away.
Step 3: New paper, write down the space you want to create this Valentines Day, is it a space of love? Peace? Appreciation? Intimacy? Sexiness? Being Present? CREATE A THEME FOR THE DAY
Step 4: In all your interactions, do something that presences that theme, or makes that theme real (whether you have a date or not you can presence love or appreciation with someone in your life today)
Have today be a day of YOUR CREATION vs a day that tv shows or love songs created for you that you ended up with by default.
Let me know what you discover!
(krĭp′tə-nīt′)n.SlangSomething that presents a particular threat to 'one that is otherwise powerful':
In this case YOU ARE THE ONE! You are the ONE that is powerful.
Superman had super powers, including the powers of flight, superhuman strength, x-ray vision, heat vision, cold breath, super-speed, enhanced hearing, and nigh-invulnerability (which means it is almost impossible to injure him in any serious way and yes I had to look that up).
Even with all that power he was "messablewith" by kryptonite, an alien mineral that has the property of depriving Superman of his powers.
Now for Superman Kryptonite was REAL, literally physically real.
I invite you to start to notice what YOUR kryptonite is.
What messes with you? What throws you off your game?
What messes with you may not have the same kind of reality as an alien mineral, it is likely more in the form of thoughts, beliefs, reasons, justifications, feelings etc. but the impact is pretty much the same.
When you start to be able to see what's messing with you, it begins to give you access to dismantling the seemingly SOLID nature of it so that you can develop the ability to go beyond your current limits.
Notice your kryptonite and then push it to the side (don't worry it will still be there if you need it)
after you push it to the side ask yourself, What am I committed to RIGHT NOW?
after you answer that question ask yourself What action would support fulfilling on what I want RIGHT NOW? then TAKE THAT ACTION.
Score some victories against your kryptonite this week and begin to develop the muscle of being UNEMSSABLEWITH.
Many people get stuck in a relationship to language where they use it to describe what is happening.
Either describing what is happening in their circumstances, like my job is difficult or my apartment is messy. Describing what is happening in their relationships like: he is being a jerk, she is ignoring me, they are ungrateful. Describing what is happening internally like I feel sad, I am exhausted, I am frustrated.
While using language to describe is fairly NORMAL it is not the only way to use language and it is often not the most powerful way to use language.
Using language to CREATE is a very powerful access to the WORLD OF CREATION, VISION and DREAMS. For instance: I promise to be patient today, I commit to taking 5 actions each day to forward this project, you can count on me to kiss you goodbye every morning.
You word can be your wand if you use it to CREATE life vs describe some version of life you are seeing or experiencing at any moment.
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.