Courage isn't the absence of fear but rather having fear and taking action anyway. Mostly people wait for their fear to disappear before hey take risks...good luck with that one...what people fail to realize is that if you don't have fear, courage isn't needed.
Only when you have fear;...
to ask for a raise..
to tell someone you love them
to start a new business etc...
does courage become a useful tool.
A friend of mine once said it “it only takes three seconds of courage to alter your life forever”, I have taken that to heart and started seeking out areas where I'm afraid to take action. I decided that anyplace I am afraid, that is the future beckoning m, calling me forward. Obviously I'm not talking about stepping into moving traffic, where fear is appropriate and useful, but rather situations like calling someone about a business dealing or making a request for someone to be involved in a project or to join my board or directors...fear in those situations feels the same as the traffic fear even though that makes no sense logically given my survival is not really threatened.
Recently I was afraid to go to the doctor and get a test done. My fear was based on thinking they would find something wrong and then I would have to take actions to deal with it. I avoided the doctor for months. Finally I listened to my own advice and said “it takes three seconds of courage” and I took the three seconds to make the appointment, once it was made I knew I would go. I had the test and all was well but the point is the fear stopping me took more of my energy and aliveness that the reality of doing the test.
I am inviting you to play the COURAGE GAME with me, here is how you play: Everyday, muster up three seconds of courage to take a risk you would not normally take in an area that is important to you, see what happens, share what happens with others...you will be developing your muscle if unmessablewithness every time courage wins over fear. Fear isn't going anywhere, but you can triumph over fear and be UnMessableWith in the face of anything life throws at you.