I recently did an interview with Mary Ann Faremouth on CAREER CAN DO about How To Thrive In Any Circumstance. If you wanna THRIVE vs SURVIVE, take a listen. (Perhaps while you are on the treadmill today.)
Here is some of what we discussed:
In this episode of Career Can Do, guest Josselyne Herman-Saccio explores what it takes to empower dreams and defeat obstacles. Josselyne is a master coach and highly experienced course leader who has dedicated her career to empowering individuals to realize and pursue their dreams. Over the course of her career, she has worked with more than 200,000 people, helping them to create opportunities, overcome obstacles, and strive for success in both personal and professional contexts. Josselyne joins Mary Ann Faremouth to share her transformative approach to achieving personal and professional success. She stresses the importance of self-awareness, particularly about recognizing and challenging limiting beliefs, and maintaining a clear understanding of personal passion and purpose.
Burnout and work-life balance are pressing issues in today’s work environment. With the rise of digital communication tools like Zoom, employees can connect from across the globe, but this also brings new challenges. To effectively manage your life and responsibilities, Josselyne advocates using a calendar as a powerful organizing tool. By recording every task and commitment, you can create tangible context for your actions, helping to distinguish between imposed or "default" dreams and your own created dreams.
Josselyne introduces the concept of being “unmessablewith,” which she describes as a state of being that allows you to create in any circumstance without being hindered. This powerful mindset is an antidote to the effects of limiting beliefs, notions of truth, and scarcity, which can interfere with your ability to achieve your dreams.
She presents an alternative view of failure, encouraging individuals to perceive it not as an endpoint but as a part of the journey towards fulfillment and success. In Josselyne’s philosophy, failure is not something to be avoided or feared. Instead, it serves as a crucial learning opportunity, providing insights and lessons that can be invaluable for personal growth and progress. Recognizing that setbacks are a natural part of life's journey can empower you to navigate your path with resilience, tenacity, and focus on your ultimate goals.
Today, we want to delve into a thought-provoking topic: the concept of independence and whether it is truly a prize or can sometimes become a prison. While independence is often seen as an admirable trait, it's essential to explore the potential drawbacks and how seeking support and collaboration can help us navigate this delicate balance.
Independence has long been hailed as a prized quality. We celebrate those who can handle everything on their own, viewing their self-sufficiency as a mark of success. However, it's worth considering whether the pursuit of absolute independence can unintentionally restrict our growth and well-being, leading to isolation and self-imposed limitations.
In reality, there is a spectrum between independence as a prize and independence as a prison. Here are a few perspectives to help us navigate this complex concept:
By embracing the idea that interdependence is a source of strength, we can navigate the delicate balance between self-reliance and seeking support.
Wishing you an unmessablewith week of collaboration and partnership!
Practice letting people support you and asking for support. You do not need to go it alone, people love to support others. Don't you?
With 4th of July coming up. Many of you may be planning family get togethers. This is of course AMAZING, unless it isnt. Sometimes holidays with those we love can also be a breading ground for upsets or arguments.
This interview was designed to support people in creating a peaceful, upset-free holiday.
Successful leaders master the skill of management . . . that is, self-management before managing others.
The ability to identify, understand and manage your own triggers is an essential leadership skill. Making sound decisions, pursuing long-term goals and adopting an authentic leadership posture is all dependent on self-regulation in the face of internal and external obstacles.
On The Enlightened Executive podcast, I joined host, Susan Drumm, to discuss transforming your internal landscape to respond to life's challenges and triggers in a way that aligns with your aspirations.
My unique coaching program, the Art Of Being Unmessablewith, helps people stay true to themselves and maintain a mindset of creation rather than reaction. In this episode, I share three crucial tools executives can implement in order to be unmessablewith.
I also share…
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Do you ever find yourself comparing yourself to others? Measuring your worth based on what you perceive others have or do? Perhaps you even experience feelings of superiority or inferiority in comparison to others?
If so, welcome to the human race. Comparison is one of the most common things that "mess with people" I've encountered while working with over 200,000 people over the past 35 years.
However, when you are engaged in comparison, you cannot fully embrace the act of creation. There's no such thing as being "a little bit pregnant" when it comes to creating. You are either in a space of comparison or a space of creation.
The way to break free from the "comparison syndrome" is to imagine yourself as nothing.
Yes, you heard me right—imagine yourself as nothing.
Picture a blank canvas or an empty page. If there were nothing there, what would you create? In this state of creative emptiness, there is no room for notions of being better or worse than others, including an outdated version of yourself. Instead, you can focus on who you are and who you want to be, what excites you, and what self-expression or passion emerges for this newly created version of yourself.
If this sounds complex, here are simple steps to follow the next time you catch yourself comparing:
Observe what unfolds as you begin exercising the muscle of creation rather than the muscle of comparison.
Remember, the journey of self-creation is unique and personal. By focusing on your own growth and self-expression, you can break free from the confines of comparison and embrace the endless possibilities that exist as a creation.
Wishing you an unmessablewith and transformative journey of creation.
Do you ever feel stuck? Have you considered that your pictures are the bars of your prison?
When I work with individuals to help them become unmessablewith, no matter what life throws at them, one crucial aspect we address is identifying what currently messes with them.
Invariably, one factor that messes with people is their fixed ideas or expectations of how things "should" be, how people "should" be, or how they "should" behave.
When you have a rigid picture of how someone or something should be, their true essence and reality are missed because your perception is filtered through that picture. Your experience of them becomes distorted by your preconceived notions. Consequently, you never truly connect with who they really are or what is actually happening.
For example, if you believe your partner should spend more time with you, you may overlook or fail to appreciate the time they do spend with you because it doesn't align with the picture in your mind of how much time it "should" be. This confines you within a prison of expectations, preventing you from embracing the present reality. Instead of experiencing freedom, joy, and authentic expression in your relationship, you feel limited and constrained, much like a prisoner.
By recognizing your pictures for what they are—mere mental constructs and not reality—you can shift your perspective. Rather than measuring everything against an idealized picture, you can choose to be fully present with your partner, appreciating the time you do spend together. This liberates you from the confines of your pictures and allows for the possibility of creating something new. You cannot create on top of an existing picture; you can only compare. Creation requires setting your pictures aside, creating a space of emptiness from which you can generate new possibilities.
The next time you feel trapped, constrained, or stuck, consider that there may be a picture influencing your perception, coloring your experience.
Once you identify the picture, you can redirect your focus and approach situations with a fresh perspective, free from the limitations of preconceived notions. Simply be there, present with the person or situation, without the filter of your pictures or expectations.
I encourage you to give it a try and discover for yourself what unfolds. I'd love to hear about your personal insights and discoveries.
Picture a life where you feel empowered, in control, and free from financial worries. Imagine saying goodbye to overwhelming anxiety and stress when it comes to your finances. It's time to turn that vision into a reality.
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I have teamed up with two of my favorite people, Tyrone Jackson, a Master Trading/Investment Coach who has empowered thousands to create residual income and shift their money mindset and Robin Quivers, a media icon and money mentor who has personally moved from fear to freedom when it comes to finances. Together, we have created this gift for you to have a mindset shift and Move from Fear to Freedom when it comes to money.
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Do you get "messablewith" with overwhelming emotions and states of being.
Most people, when faced with difficult emotions such as sadness, anger, or annoyance, try to Push Through these feelings to get things done. However, this approach never really resolves the original state of being, and often leads to more stress and frustration. Layers of reaction to your initial reaction. A very deep hole.
So, what's the alternative? The next time you feel some sort of way, try a different approach by following these steps so as to Create Anew:
Remember, it's okay to feel your emotions - the key is to move to CREATION from REACTION faster and faster.
Recently I recorded a podcast with my friend and former client Lianna Nielson.
There were a lot of juicy nuggets in the conversation so I wanted to send it to you to soak up.
I hope this newsletter finds you well. You may or may not already know this but, I have some exciting news to share with you. After 40 long years of dreaming about it, I have finally moved to Paris! It's hard to believe that this day has finally arrived, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the journey that brought me here.
To be honest, there were many times when I didn't think moving to Paris was possible or realistic. I had all kinds of reasons why it wouldn't work. I worried about my kids. I was concerned about my parents and how far away I would be from them. I wondered how I could possibly run my business from Paris, and I was scared about the cost of living in such a beautiful city.
Furthermore, my husband and I weren't sure if we were ready for him to stop working, and we didn't think we could afford it. We also worried about what other people would think if we left everything behind to pursue our dream.
But then, something shifted. I was coaching people on disappearing someday and realized I was not walking my talk!
That is when I remembered a quote from George Bernard Shaw that said, "The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man." I realized that if I kept waiting for the perfect time, I would never make my dream a reality. I decided to be unreasonable and commit to making it happen, no matter what life threw at me to deal with.
Once I made that commitment, everything started to fall into place. I found resources that I didn't even know existed, and I discovered that it was possible to run my business 100% remotely. My husband and I worked out a plan that allowed him to take 6 months off, and we found an affordable, AMAZING apartment that was perfect for our needs. (It even has an "office.")
All of these obstacles that once seemed insurmountable are now simply items to take action on. And by committing to my dream, I exercised the muscle of being unmessablewith. I attracted the resources and opportunities I needed to make my dream a reality and took the actions needed to fulfill the dream instead of simply dreaming the dream.
So, if you have a "someday" dream that you keep putting off, I encourage you to take the first step and make a promise to yourself and to someone else that you will make it happen (with a by when date). Yes, there will be "messablewith" moments along the way, but if you continue to act from your dream instead of your reasons or considerations, the fulfillment is a done deal.