We have all had the experience of the New Year's MEZZO-LUTIONS, resolutions that we know, deep down, we're not going to keep. We may have all the best intentions to honor these half-hearted MEZZO-LUTIONS but shortly after they're made, the inevitable pull to break them takes over and we justify not keeping them with reasons like, "I’ll do it tomorrow," or "It’s not really that important," or "No one cares anyway."
How can we make STICK-O–LUTIONS, as I like to call them, or resolutions that stick? Well, first we have to acknowledge that the sticking power has nothing to do with the resolution itself. It is 100 percent a function of our relationship to our SELF and our WORD. When we make a promise or give our word to something, does it exist for us as a sacred bond or more like cheap talk? In fact, when we break our promises, we chip away at the power of our word, thereby cheapening our so-called commitment and losing all chance of the true power of the promise.
I am of the belief that promising is one of the most powerful tools you can use to create results in your life.
Here are the three main principles that will give your promises power rather than being hot air:
1. Treat your word like everything matters.
If you say you'll meet someone at 7 p.m., be there at 7. If you say you'll do 20 minutes on the treadmill, don't do 19 and say it's enough, do 20. If you say no ice cream this month, buy frozen yogurt, for goodness sake.
If you treat your word like everything matters, you will eliminate the impulse to pick and choose what promises you keep and which you break.
2. Connect your promise to a bigger game.
Think about it this way: What does that promise do to fulfill what is truly important to you? If peace is important to you, how does exercising contribute to your vision of peace, i.e., being fit enables you to sleep better and creates peace of mind.
Here's an example from my own life: My husband had a resolution not to eat Chinese food in 2021. And he didn't have it even once. He connected it to something that mattered to him, which is money. Every time he had Chinese food for dinner, he ended up needing a second dinner later that evening, and now dinner was twice the cost. Furthermore, every time we ordered for the family, it cost about $100, which is much more than we typically budget for dinner. So 2021 was an eggroll-less year in our household.
3. Make keeping your promises be synonymous with building power.
No promises = No power. If being powerful matters to you, you'll stop messing with your promises.
You don’t have much to say about how you feel or what you think or your mood. For the most part, those things just glom on you like little flecks of dust in the air. The only thing you can be UNMESSABLEWITH is your WORD, it's what you have complete to say over. And keeping your word will bring you amazing power.