One of things I love to do is have conversations about being Unmessablewith™. Some of those conversations are during podcast interviews. Here are some of my favorite podcast interviews of 2023. Enjoy the tips and strategies to develop yourself in being able to CREATE vs REACT in life and be Unmessablewith™!
The Terri Cole Show A Productive Conversation with Mike Vardy Sleep Is A Skill with Mollie Eastman
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Let’s dive into a topic that is often shrouded in mystery, embarrassment and misconceptions: SEX. Contrary to popular belief, sex and intimacy are not automatically intertwined. In fact, I suggest that the key to great sex lies in open and honest communication. So, let’s explore how you can enhance your connection with your partner and take your intimacy to new heights!
Action Step 1: Set aside dedicated time to communicate openly with your partner. Create a safe space for sharing thoughts and feelings without judgment. 2. Intimacy Requires Honesty: Intimacy is not solely reserved for the bedroom. It’s a multifaceted aspect of a relationship that is deeply rooted in honesty. Think about those moments of intimacy you’ve experienced with people you’re not romantically involved with. Chances are, those connections were built on a foundation of truth and openness. Apply the same principles to your romantic relationship by being completely honest with your partner. Action Step 2: Reflect on your level of honesty in your relationship. Are there things you’re holding back? Take the initiative to share fully and authentically. 3. Open Communication for Better Sex and Intimacy: If you desire both great sex and deep intimacy, open and honest communication is the key. Ask yourself the tough questions: What are you not saying? What are you hiding? What are you trying to ignore? Challenge yourself to bring these topics into the open, creating a pathway for a more profound connection with your partner. Action Step 3: Initiate a conversation with your partner where both of you can openly share your thoughts, dreams, and concerns. Use this dialogue as a bridge to the best sex and intimacy you’ve ever experienced together. Remember, the more you communicate openly, the stronger the foundation you build for a fulfilling and satisfying relationship. So, are you ready to take your connection to the next level? Happy New Year Time to Unlock the Power of Promises: Move Beyond Resolutions to stick-o-lutions!1/1/2024 As we embark on a new year, it’s time to reflect on the age-old tradition of New Year’s resolutions. We’ve all been there, setting ambitious goals only to find them slipping away shortly after the clock strikes midnight. It’s the classic case of New Year’s MEZZO-LUTIONS – resolutions that lack the sticking power we desire.
So, how do we transition from fleeting resolutions to STICK-O-LUTIONS, promises that truly stick? Join me on a journey to explore the secrets of making commitments that endure. Treat Your Word Like Everything Matters When we make promises, they should carry weight. If you commit to meeting someone at 7 p.m., honor that commitment. If you pledge to spend 20 minutes on the treadmill, don’t settle for 19. Treating your word with the gravity it deserves eliminates the temptation to selectively uphold promises. Connect Your Promise to a Bigger Game Consider the impact of your promises on what truly matters to you. If peace is a priority, link your commitment to actions that contribute to your vision of peace. For instance, maintaining a fitness routine can lead to better sleep, cultivating peace of mind. Connecting promises to meaningful objectives strengthens their significance. In a personal example, my husband refrained from eating Chinese food for an entire year. Why? He connected it to his financial goals. Each Chinese meal led to an additional dinner expense, impacting our budget. This small sacrifice resulted in an eggroll-less, but financially empowered, 2013. Make Keeping Promises Synonymous with Building Power No promises, no power. Recognize that keeping your word is not just about commitments; it’s about building personal power. If empowerment is a priority for you, embracing and fulfilling promises becomes a pathway to increased strength and influence. In a world where many things are beyond our control, your word remains a force you can wield. It’s the key to becoming UNMESSABLEWITH – where your word is sacred and unbreakable. Remember, you might not have control over your feelings, thoughts, or mood, but your word is entirely within your command. Embrace the power of promises, and watch as it brings incredible strength into your life. If you’re intrigued by the idea of unleashing the potential of your promises, consider diving deeper into this transformative concept. For those hungry for more, I’ve authored two books on the subject – “Peace Promises” and “The Promise Effect.” Wishing you an UNMESSABLEWITH™ holiday is okay, but what if you could have a RECIPE FOR AN UNMESSABLEWITH™ HOLIDAY! I wanted to give you a quick video to support you in being unmessablewith™ this coming week. Click below to see a 5 minute excerpt from my UNMESSABLEWITH HOLIDAY WORKSHOP that will give you a quick-go-to-recipe. This will be especially useful if you find yourself HOOKED, ANNOYED, ANXIOUS or UPSET. Honestly it will be useful even if you are experiencing peace, joy and happiness. THIS IS ABOUT CREATING YOUR HOLIDAY. Honestly it will be useful even if you are experiencing peace, joy and happiness. THIS IS ABOUT CREATING YOUR HOLIDAY. Have you ever found yourself trapped in the never-ending cycle of striving for perfection, hesitating to take the next step until you’re certain it’s “right”? If so, you’re not alone, and today, we’re here to talk about the liberating concept of embracing imperfect action.
“I don’t really go down the road of right and wrong because it’s so subjective. So for me, I, you know, if people are like, I got to get it right, I’d be like, there is no right to get, there’s just what you’re creating because people, you know, get stuck in perfection paralysis, you know, trying to get things right before they put it out there.” -ME, I said this lol These words echo the power of not having to get it right, spoken by someone who understands that perfection is a subjective, often elusive goal. This notion is particularly relevant to anyone engaged in the process of creation – whether you’re an artist, entrepreneur, or visionary. Breaking Free from Perfection Paralysis The pursuit of perfection can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it drives us to refine and enhance our work. On the other hand, it can paralyze us, preventing us from taking action and realizing our dreams. When we wait for the “perfect” moment or the “perfect” creation, we often find ourselves stuck in a state of perpetual indecision. The fear of making a mistake or being judged can hinder our progress. But it doesn’t have to be this way. The Power of Imperfect Action Embracing the idea that there is no singular “right” way is liberating. It’s an acknowledgment that creation is a journey, not a destination. Imperfect actions, with their quirks and flaws, have their own unique charm and beauty. Here are a few key takeaways to remember: 1. Action Over Perfection: The act of creating is a process of exploration. The more you do, the more you learn. Imperfect actions are your stepping stones to improvement in your performance. 2. Learning from Mistakes: Mistakes and imperfections are valuable teachers. They help you refine your craft, discover new possibilities, and grow as a creator. 3. Connection and Authenticity: Perfect can be intimidating, whereas imperfect can be relatable and human. Imperfections in your creations can help you connect with your audience or your family or colleagues, on a deeper level. 4. Progress Over Perfection: Remember that progress is the game. Waiting for perfection can lead to stagnation, while taking imperfect actions moves you forward. 5. Trust Yourself: Believe in your creative instincts and the path you’re on. You don’t have to conform to external definitions of perfection. Celebrate Imperfect Action So, here’s to celebrating those imperfections, the zigzags, and the beautifully chaotic journey of creation. Embrace your creative spirit, dare to take imperfect actions, and allow your unique vision to shine through. Perfection is a mirage, but actions and the courage to create are real and tangible. Don’t let the fear of getting it “right” hold you back. Instead, let the joy of creation propel you forward, one imperfect action at a time. As we navigate the twists and turns of life, I've come to realize a profound distinction between dealing with life and creating life. In my work, especially with my highly successful clients, I often witness their exceptional abilities to handle challenges, solve problems, and manage whatever comes their way. It's precisely these skills that have contributed to their success.
However, I've also noticed that there's a fundamental difference between dealing with life effectively and creating life powerfully. Dealing with life involves a reactive approach, where we find ourselves going down and inward to manage the situations that arise. It's about reacting to the circumstances and finding solutions to the problems presented before us. On the other hand, creating life requires a shift in focus – it's an upward and outward journey into the realm of vision. It's about charting a course of action based on inspiration, aspirations, and a grander vision for the future. Creating life means taking a creative stance and deliberately shaping our destiny. In my work with clients, I focus on empowering them to transition from the world of reaction to the world of creation. I provide pathways and strategies that allow them to channel their capabilities, skills, and experiences into a space of vision and purpose. This shift enables them to continue doing the very same things they excel at, but from a different perspective – one that is future-oriented and filled with limitless possibilities. Just like a painter takes a blank canvas and transforms it into a masterpiece, we too can be the architects of our own lives. It's about embracing the power of creation and nurturing a mindset that thrives on envisioning and building a future that aligns with, and fulfills, our deepest desires. The journey from dealing with life to creating life is both liberating and transformative. It offers a sense of agency and direction that goes beyond merely reacting to external circumstances. Instead, it allows us to take charge of our narrative and make intentional choices that align with our aspirations. So, I encourage each of you to take a moment to reflect on your own lives. Are you primarily dealing with life, or are you actively engaged in creating life? If you find yourself more in the realm of reaction, know that it's never too late to shift gears and embrace the power of creation. It takes practice but hey, what else are you gonna do. Life has this fascinating way of throwing us curveballs, doesn't it? One of my personal journeys involves my amazing 92-year-old mother who's gracefully navigating through the intricate web of dementia. Now, this is a journey that could easily be overshadowed by frustration and confusion. But I've chosen a different path—one paved with love, fulfillment, and a whole lot of fun. Dementia, as it progresses, might seem like a challenge that could throw me off balance. It could lead me down the rabbit hole of "this shouldn't be happening" and "why is life unfair?" But here's the beautiful unmessablewith twist—I've chosen to step into every moment with my mother from a place of love and right now-ness. Yes, her questions might loop around repetitively, playing the same tune twelve times in one conversation. And yes, it could be tempting to respond with impatience or frustration. But instead, I've decided to be fully present. In each moment, I'm answering her question with the same right now-ness as if it were the first time she asked. Here's the magic: when I choose to be present, to be in that space of love and presence, there's no room for dis-ease. There's no frustration; there's no inner conflict. It's as if the challenges dissolve in the warmth of love and the light of presence and joy. Really. What if we could start approaching situations—be they joyful or challenging—with a heart filled with love and right now-ness. It's about showing up in the now, in the present moment, and embracing it for what it is vs being annoyed or frustrated by default. It's something to practice as we are navigating the holidays, and really every day. Right Now = Present Present = Gift Do the math, Right Now is a Gift...see if you can practice relating to it as such. In the wise words of my mother, known to most as MIMI, DO IT NOW! Lately, I've been diving deep with my clients to uncover what truly stops them from taking action towards their dreams. It all starts with a clear vision. When we know what we want in life, we have our North Star guiding us towards our goals. But here's the thing - it's not always the lack of vision that holds us back. It's often the stories we tell ourselves about why we can't achieve what we desire. This tends to cloud our vision and keep us trapped. Just like the fascinating story of how fleas are trained, we, too, can become trapped by invisible lids that keep us stuck in the past. Those past experiences, beliefs, and self-doubts create limitations that we carry with us, often unknowingly. We jump against the lid, but we're held back by our own perceptions. The journey to transformation involves uncovering these limiting beliefs, then questioning and challenging their validity. Is it really true that you're not good enough? Is it true that you can't pursue your passion as a career? Are those stories from the past still relevant today? ANY TRUTH IS AN IMAGINARY LID. The moment we start to question these stories, we open up a world of possibilities. We begin to see that the lid isn't really there - it's just a product of our own perceptions. And when we realize this, a sense of empowerment takes over. I've witnessed this transformation in countless individuals including myself. Below is a video clip exploring the above with Mike Vardy and I on his podcast A PRODUCTIVE CONVERSATION. So, my dear friends, let's explore together. Let's identify the stories that are holding us back and challenge their validity. Let's embrace the power of vision and step into a world where our dreams are within reach. Together, we can become fearless and unmessablewith, just like the powerful fleas that initially jump without hesitation. Thanksgiving can be about the turkey, stuffing, and sweet potatoes or it can be about the opportunity to thank and appreciate the people who mean the most to you.
But by merely surviving the holidays, we often miss the point of the season. Instead of powering through your to-do list this Thanksgiving, why not be the source of appreciation and thanks and create a true THANKSGIVING? Here are a few ideas to get you on the path to being thankful this holiday:
Be the source of giving thanks wherever you go. If you do this, it will enable you to build a muscle of appreciation that will expand beyond the holiday and have your life filled with gratitude for the big and the little things that make up your everyday life. In our journey through life, we often face a paradox: to expand, we must first learn to release. This concept may seem counterintuitive, but let me share why it's essential, whether in business, personal growth, relationships or even yoga.
The Yoga Analogy Yoga teaches us a valuable lesson. When holding a challenging pose, it might seem logical to hold our breath tightly, believing it will help us maintain the posture. However, the opposite is true. To extend into the pose and find balance, we must release our breath. In doing so, we create space for expansion. (look at me the yogi...something I never would have thought was possible) Applying It to Life Much like in yoga, the same principle applies to life, especially when it comes to entrepreneurship, personal development, and relationships. Many individuals I work with, including but not limited to, entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, and executives, often struggle with trying to "do it all" instead of having it all. The Need to Let Go To expand and elevate any area of our lives, we must let go. Holding tightly onto tasks, projects, or responsibilities limits the space for growth. It could be the belief that you're the only one who can do something correctly or withholding a crucial communication. Identifying Your Constraints Take a moment to reflect on the areas in your life where you're striving for growth and expansion. Are you experiencing slow progress or stagnation? Ask yourself: What am I holding on to? What do I need to release, delegate, communicate, or share to create space for expansion? Breaking the Barrier What you're holding on to acts as a lid on what's possible. By releasing it, you unlock new opportunities, ideas, and growth. It might be challenging at first, as letting go often requires vulnerability and trust, but the rewards are worth it. Share Your Insights I'd love to hear what you discover in your self-reflection. What are you ready to release to create room for expansion in your life, business, or relationships? Feel free to share your insights with me; I'm here to support your journey. Remember, expansion often begins with letting go. Embrace the paradox, release to expand, and watch as new possibilities and opportunities unfold. |
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