Shoulds and shouldn'ts are one of the biggest sources of dis-ease and suffering that I have found as I work with people in developing their ability to be unmessablewith.
In reality there are no should's and shouldn'ts. WE as human beings add shoulds and shouldn'ts to our view of what is happening, to our view of other people and to our view of ourselves.
He should be different, this should be easier, I shouldn't be so xyz etc...
Whenever you engage in a conversation that something or someone should be another way or shouldn't be the way they are, you have a recipe for suffering.
The shoulds/shouldn'ts become a layer of BULL-SHOULD between you and what is actually so.
Unless you can be with people as they are (including yourself) without having to change them or fix them, you are stuck in a reaction mode and no real creation is possible.
This week I invite you to notice all the shoulds you have about yourself, others and the world...and all the shouldn'ts you have about yourself, others and the world, and when you see one, see if you can put it to the side, and actually experience what is really there, who is really there...without that layer of BULL-SHOULD in the way.
When you do this you may find your self experiencing more peace of mind, calm and energy that you do in that world of should and shouldn't. Let me know what you discover.
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